Why Women Feel Not Good During Khula? 5 Basic Reasons!

Many women in Pakistan believe that the process of obtaining khula, also known as a wife-initiated divorce, is complex.. Although it is right given to the woman by Islamic Law, the difficulty of Khula in Pakistan comes into play due to many legal, social and emotional aspects.

1. Lack of Legal Awareness

Many women are unaware of the legal procedure for Khula. They often don’t know:

• Where to file a Khula case (usually at the Family Court).

• What documents are required?

• The time frame involved.

This lack of awareness creates confusion and fear of the unknown, making Khula appear more complex than it actually is.

2. Social Pressure and Cultural Norms

In traditional societies, women are often discouraged from seeking separation—even in toxic or abusive marriages. Cultural stigma includes:

• Fear of being judged by family and community.

• Pressure to "save the marriage" at all costs.

• Concerns about children's future or custody.

This social pressure makes the process feel emotionally draining and socially risky.

3. Emotional and Financial Dependency

Many women remain in unhappy marriages due to emotional attachment or financial reliance on their husbands. Some fear:

• Losing their home or source of income.

• Being unable to support themselves or their children post-divorce.

• Facing isolation or rejection from their own families.

This dependency makes Khula not just a legal choice, but an emotional and financial struggle.

4. Court Procedures Can Be Intimidating

Although the Khula process is simpler than a long-drawn-out divorce battle, the legal system still involves:

• Appearing in court.

• Facing cross-questioning.

• Providing valid grounds for Khula (such as cruelty, neglect, incompatibility).

For many women, the idea of going to court without male support is overwhelming and frightening.

5. Misconceptions About Religious Validity

Some women are made to believe that seeking Khula is against Islamic teachings, even though Islam grants this right to women. Misinformation from unqualified religious or community figures can lead women to feel guilty or hesitant, believing they are committing a sin.

Conclusion

Khula is a religious and legal right to every Muslim woman. But many women, because of ignorance, social pressures and fear of the law, feel the whole process is confusing and emotionally exhausting.